The one purpose of parenting is the ability and capacity to raise a child from the womb spiritually, physically, emotionally, and intelligently fit to be a complete adult. Complete adulthood starts and ends in childhood. When a child is well brought up, three institutions profit therefrom; the child, the parents, and the society/nation/world. Conversely, a child left to himself is a reproach to himself, the parents, and the society. The ruins of a nation is as a result of the way and manner she treats her children. No one desires an unproductive, indolent, and laid back adult. The dream of every parent is to achieve and enjoy a happier, loving and rewarding retirement life at old age.
Easier said than done. None of these desired attributes of a complete child is achieved in isolation of a quality and effective parenting. A parent that is intentional about his mission on earth. A proactive parent, forward thinking, and fantastically ever ready, to sacrifice all in order to raise a blessed generation, that all mankind shall benefit from. Think the child; think purpose, protection, empowerment, and possession
Today dear parent, let us talk about how to be an effective leader in parenting. Our core job is to raise leaders, kings, and saviors, not mere men. The mandate to raise problem solvers who will not just exist on planet earth, but to live to make outstanding remarkable imparts remain sacrosanct. We are not just raising leaders and kings, we are raising saviors of nations. We must as parents as a matter of fact, able to discern and be clearvoyant enough about the future of our children as effective leaders in parenting. This must be intentional. The area of purpose is critical in bringing up our children. What you see in them is what you get. Leadership is about imparting on the followership to get results , not efforts.
As quality parents, we must think qualitatively and positively in ensuring the best comes out of these glorious seeds. Our thoughts toward achieving this must be superior to what is seen, predictable, or available. We must deliberately move beyond mundaneness. It is the unseen that gives birth to our beliefs in them.
The hallmark of an effective parenting is to be able to lead well. Leadership in parenting is defined as the ability to positively influence the children and the entire household into doing things ordinarily they would not do. Its about helping that ‘sturbborn’ child to find his/her way back to the right track of life, leadership quality is seen ahead of the child, beyond the present childhood challenges.
Dear all, Its about influencing them to do the right thing so as to grow up into a full adulthood readily equipped with the right values and ethics of life of integrity, honesty, self restraints, self empowerment, trust, success, relationship, compassion, and love.
Leadership in parenting is facing the onerous task of family challenges boldly and turn them into prospects. Inspite of the daunting challenges of childhood exhuberances, our leadership prowess is tested when we remain unshaken in our efforts to to turn those exhuberances to potential. The marks of a leader include a willingness to take on serious responsibilities and a determination to keep one’s commitment no matter what the cost. Our commitment from the day we brought them to this earth is to raise them to be world leaders irrespective of any challenge, be it economy or social.
Leadership in parenting is experiencing the pains and rigors of family issues, the zeal to learn through such pains of life and grows out of it is the reason why you are called a caregiver. The children are looking for that parents that will stand by them through the thick and thin. They are not looking for a perfect parent, but the one with a heart of compassion and sincerity. That moment may not be pleasant, but they do know when you sweat for them
The ability to turn such pains into gains is what makes you a leader. Leadership in parenting is experiencing the mixture of good and bad life; season of surplus, season of broke, period of setbacks or it seems that finacial loss looks irreversible. Instead of allowing that moment of broke to make you cranky, grumpy, and uncoordinated, you remain alive. When it seems against all odds, the imminent survival from the present economic recession is unpredictable, yet you are unpertubed, instead you focus on being deliberate, intentional, and resolute in resetting your economy mindset and ambrace sound financial education to turn those ‘irreversible’ to a season of breakthrough, are distinct and excellent features of leadership in parenting.
Irrespective of the wounds of past childhood experiences we have sustained, the ability and tenacity to heal these wounds and overcome them , in making sure the same is not repeated and affected the techniques we raise our children with, is to choose a positive life stance as leaders in the family. Positive life stance propels our thinking brain into action
As I said earlier, what you see in your children determines how far they get to in life. A goodly child is protected from a resentful, irriitated, and violent environment. What do you see in your child as a leader? I ask you today! Do you see that child as an instrument to use, abuse, and discard, or a veritable tool to take over mountains of the world for God. It is hypocritical for any parent to expect bountiful harvest when he is consistently in habitual manner of sowing sparingly leadership qualities in the child. Leadership is learnable. Quality leadership in parenting is the hub of success of a nation. All the spheres of influence evolves around parenting. Everyone that has sit on top of business conglomerate is a product of a home.
Dear parent, achieving these leadership qualities is a must, once you have decided to be a proactive parent, hence the place of leadership capacity and ability cannot be disdained. Capacity is inbuilt though, but it requires additional knowledge and skill to be able to read the children and the entire household. You cannot be a good leader if you fail to read your followers. Ability on the hand is learnable and acquirable. You may have the inbuilt capacity to bring forth a child , but ability to raise them qualitatively is needed. The place of searching for relevant skill and knowledge to excel in a task is a must
Dear parent , for effective leadership in parenting to be felt by our children, the following areas must be touched
1. Example. Children want to see their parents do what they preach to them. If you want your children to know about your faith, teach the Word by reading it together. It is not enough to drag to faith centres without having the knowledge of who God is. We must be able to lead them in the development of their faith. What we do or do not do will make a difference in their life. We should not be consumed by the worry of life, to the neglect of teaching them the right atittude. Frankly speaking it is impossible to train them on what we do not do.
2. Firmness. You must be firm in the home administration, but with human face. A child left on his own will bring destruction to the family. A family with weak or absence of authority figures is not the one the children of this twenty first century are looking for, otherwise they become tyrants and continuing to live in the cycle of everyone doing whatever he or she likes, or thinks is right. A loose family is a loose destiny
3.Be proactive. Being proactive is upgrading oneself to be that parent constantly in tune with the needs of a child; emotional, spiritual, physical, and social need. How you respond to all these basic needs stands you out of lots. Active parents who do not want to give in for continuous parenting education will end up been reactive. This is the opposite of proactive. Reactiveness makes you to regrets your actions or inactions without a remedy. Proactivenes empowers you to be a dependable parent they will
I believe you have learnt one or two lessons in today’s topic, kindly let’s do more by talking and acting more after now, my twitter handle is @akinropoakinola, better still , you can join our parenting live class, holding on every third Saturday of the month at excellence hotel, ogba, Lagos. August edition is coming up on saturday 20th. You’d think you knew all until you read and heard more.
I remain yours, my name is akinropo akinola. Please enjoy your day